The worst feeling that anyone can experience is the feeling of feeling stuck. While this may not include the facts, convincing yourself that you’re stuck puts you in a mindset that you never think there is a way of escape.
Usually the thought of being stuck shows up in relationships, as well as your take on where your career is headed.
The inability to move forward is most often accompanied by the idea of not knowing what to do next. Because you don’t know what to do, the feeling of being stuck takes center stage.
I’ve learned from first hand experience that the more you focus on being stuck, the more you become tangled in a mental web that starts spinning out of control.
I’ve also learned that if you’re willing to relax and take the emotional piece out of the equation you increase the chances of seeing a way out.
To get unstuck it takes finesse and technique.
Growing up in the northern part of the United States I was quite familiar with waking up to large amounts of snow. However, unlike the southern states that experience a few snow flakes, when it snowed that world around you still went on without any reservations.
As a new driver the right of passage included not only knowing how to drive in the snow, but also mastering the right techniques if you ever veered off the beaten path and became stuck. It required patience, skill and knowing when the right time was to put the pedal to the floor board. If you mastered all three, then what seemed like a setback only lasted a few minutes and you where back in route to your destination.
When you think your stuck, overcompensating to fix one problem could land you in another situation that is worse then the situation you’re trying to escape.
Here are a few techniques that I use when it seems like my world has come to a screeching halt.
- Ask the hard questions. To get out of a bad situation I need to know how I got there. What decisions did I make to put myself in this place. Do I know when, where and how.
- Know where you’re headed. It’s always good at this point to reassess your goals and personal purpose and mission statement. The goal is not to just get unstuck. The goal is to get back on the right road that leads to reaching your goals.
- Don’t panic. The worst thing that anyone can do is panic, overreact. and put themselves in place that’s worst then what they’re trying to escape. Remove the emotion and proceed.
- Look for opportunities. There are sometimes that you can’t just make quick changes and everything is better. There are times when it takes a strategic approach that includes weeks instead of minutes. In this case, look for ways that you can leverage where you’re at. Brush up on your skills. Learn. Read. Explore.
- Understand timing. Kenny Rogers (yes, I’m referencing Kenny Rogers) in his song “The Gambler” sang, “you’ve got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them, know when to walk away, know when to run.” Embrace timing and move quickly and with confidence. Have a destination. Don’t just move to move.
If you think you’re the only one, think again. Everyone has some point in their career and relationships felt stuck. You’re not alone, but you do have what it takes to get back on track and fulfill your purpose.
Don’t panic, just keep moving!
image courtesy of Jayme Frye